Each one of us has ventured through the jagged path of adolescence, facing a vast array of trials and tribulations, which have been instrumental in defining our fundamental character, and broadening our ever- evolving global perspective. We learn “hard” and “crucial” lessons, of which we would now deem miniscule dilemmas in our advancing age. I believe that each day we have the potential for individual, societal, and global catastrophic growth- Eleanor Roosevelt embodies this idea.
“People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.”
Eleanor Roosevelt, the first lady to America’s 32nd President Franklin Delano Roosevelt, serves as a beaming example on how to live a life of quality and compassion. She is best known for her support of the United Nations and working efforts towards the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
President Roosevelt and Eleanor set a new standard of governmental accessibility and transparency during his term, establishing and readily inviting press to what we now know as The White House Correspondent’s Dinner. One can imagine the discourse this created with their fellow aristocrats, yet it gained them much favor with the American public. It is natural to gravitate towards those who are genuine about their pursuits, especially those who advocate for others. Eleanor Roosevelt was one of these individuals; she sought and educated the masses on the dyer need for global equality. So naturally, she established a large fan base, as well as a pool of critics. Her impact is evident, earning thirty-five honorary degrees in her lifetime, including a Doctor of Laws from Clark Atlanta University.
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.”
Eleanor Roosevelt has taught me, and serves as an example for everyone, on what to, and not to take personally. She grew up in a broken home, an alcoholic father and deceased mother- yet she saw the struggles of others. Her character and global pursuits of equality helped put into perspective, yet find value in our simple, “first- world” troubles.
Your ride will forget you, for hours. You’ll watch your friends catch their rides, your teachers leave, the drama and sports kids clear out of your elementary school. The sky’s contrast will intensify and the weather will drop- and you’ll be sitting on your backpack, on top of the ice, leaning against the chilled brick wall behind the flagpole… You contemplate the value of your relationship with the driver and the virtue of timeliness. You’ll realize soon after, in a different circumstance, that you’re the forgetful one. This recognition will teach you not to take things so personally, as we’re all flawed. You weren’t forgotten because your ride doesn’t care about you- only because they’re human. By recognizing the scope of someone else’s responsibilities, you’ll realize that you are no one’s primary concern. You will learn to not take things so personally.
A close friend will tell all your secrets and fears, and everyone will hear about them and continue talking about them. You’re significant other will cheat on you, and you’ll hear of it through the grape vine. It’s not because you’re a joke or deserve to be treated cruelly- it’s because people are insecure with themselves. You’ll learn that people will disappoint you and hurt you and maliciously cut you down until they think you are broken beyond repair. You learn to not take it personally.
People aren’t mean or flaky because of you. People are mean because of their own ignorance. If someone tries to hurt you it’s because they’re weak, so don’t take it personally, find sympathy and work harder to educate others.
You learn to not take things so personally so that you may grow the tough skin necessary to fight for what is personal. So what is personal to you? Think about it? What abstract things do you value? Raise your hand if you value happiness. The obvious answers are:
Freedom. Learning, not just from school. Good health. Friends. Family.
These are the things that personally affect every single one of you and every single human being. These are human issues. There are not women’s issues, poor people issue, black people issues, or homosexuality issues. There are only human issues.You can trace every tribulation in your life back to infringement on one of these universal human rights. And because you are all presumably human, and therefore a part of human kind, these are all your issues. These are the issues you need to take personally. As if each action and words of ignorance and oppression were being carved into your own skin.
When someone hurts or limits another, it’s because they don’t understand human value. When someone attacks your human value, they are undermining their own value. By limiting anyone’s happiness or freedom, you are acting as an example to the rest of the world. When you bully, steal from, lie to or limit others- you are giving others the permission to act in the same manner, especially to you. Do you really believe that any individual has the right to deem someone else a lesser human, because you do not? I will take your actions personally. You should take other’s actions personally. Eleanor Roosevelt was fundamental in establishing a living document implementing the importance of these issues. She has left a legacy, in which we much pursue with the same amount of vigor and passion.
If you judge and limit based on the color of their skin, their sexual orientation or what they choose to believe or not believe in. You’re giving me and everyone else the right to do the same. Every single one of your actions serves, as an example as to how you believe the rest of the world should act.
When you call women degrading names- a word rhymes with witch, a gardening tool- you’re claiming it’s acceptable to commodify all women in this way. You know, she is someone’s daughter, sister, friend, and someday parent. You’re giving society the go-ahead to treat your children, friends and parents in the same manner. By calling someone a degrading name, you’re giving others permission to do the same to you and me. Eleanor worked to educate the globe on this common- sensicle principle!
You should be personally offended when politics gets in the way of people, because you’re a person. That law, rule, or social custom that prohibits his happiness or her love is personally attacking your right for happiness and love as well. No one should be seen as going above and beyond the expected when they simply respect human value.
“As for accomplishments, I just did what I had to do as things came along.”
Now, consider the amount of people you encounter each day. You’re all struggling against opposition to pursue some sort of issue. You, them, we, are all members of a global society. Together, we will work towards strengthening our personal and group foundation, framed by equality, stacked with opportunity, and filled with love and happiness.
Some of those you encounter will be too scared to “waste” their time on overwhelming issues. Fear has a funny little way convincing a person that development and change are bad. Take personally the force of fear- it oppresses individuals and society alike. The largest opponent of human equality is fear, often rooted in the ignorance and the laziness of the feeble-minded. You are no one of those people, as you value and respect your human freedoms.
Making a positive difference is still a positive, regardless of how small an act it may be. Change it scary, and maybe seem overwhelming and pointless, so I’ll leave you with a beautiful parable, one of my favorites in fact:
One morning an elderly man was walking on a nearly deserted beach. He came upon a boy surrounded by thousands and thousands of starfish. As eagerly as he could, the youngster was picking them up and throwing them back into the ocean.
Puzzled, the older man looked at the young boy and asked, "Little boy, what are you doing?"
The youth responded without looking up, "I'm trying to save these starfish, sir."
The old man chuckled aloud, and queried, "Son, there are thousands of starfish and only one of you. What difference can you make?"
Holding a starfish in his hand, the boy turned to the man and, gently tossing the starfish into the water, said, "It will make a difference to that one!"
“Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.”
-Eleanor Roosevelt